It must be nice to have love in your life

Had a pretty crazy day at work today. I’m off tomorrow and wanted to have tomorrow’s work almost done so my coworker wouldn’t get stuck with it on a Friday. She’s busy enough as it is. So that means a four day weekend for me. Yay! On the other hand, it’s supposed to be hot hot hot and it’s going to be hard to muster up any desire to get out and about. I’m sure I’ll fit in some photography at some point.

Last Saturday while out with the group I came across this young couple clearly in love down at the new water feature/park on Lower Sherborne St. It’s pretty nice. Anyway, I had mixed emotions seeing these two. It was on the one hand heartwarming, but also made me feel a tad lonely. Some people go through life thinking there’s someone out there for everyone, but if you apply logic to that thought, then obviously it’s just a bunch of wishful thinking built on the same foundation that supports Santa and the Easter Bunny. It might be nice to believe but that’s about all it is. Millions of people live a life alone and die without ever finding the right someone. But you know what: given that I was once a believer too, I can tell you that you’re better off holding onto hope. You might die alone but you’ll die with the hope in your heart that around the next corner might be your soul mate. That’s gotta bet better than resigning yourself to the logic of the matter and giving up that hope. For those of us who are destine to end up alone, that hope is like a little ray of sunshine cutting through an empty room.

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8 Responses to It must be nice to have love in your life

  1. Frances says:

    Lovely photo and I’m sure you will find love some day. Keep that hope alive…. I’m off to NYC tomorrow….for the weekend…so excited. Taking my son….who is not so excited…he would rather stay down the basement and play his x-box. My sister and my neice as well are going. I also “hope” that he loves it once he is there ! My camera is ready!

  2. susanwhozan says:

    I am really diggin your blog…I have traveled all over the US…except for new england…your photos are giving me the adventurer back! Thank you, your vision is inspiring!

  3. HMB says:

    Hope is the one thing, the only thing that simply cannot be given up. It is vital to human existence.

    I like the balance of this photo. Long water on one side gliding onward, while the couple, looking so relaxed and familiar, fills up the right side of the frame. Good work.

  4. milkayphoto says:

    I feel blessed every day to have love in my life. I didn’t date much in highschool and spent much of my time alone thinking I would never find anyone to love me (“I’m not pretty enough”, “I’m not funny enough”, “I’m not thin enough”, “I’m not cool”, etc.). The funny thing is, all those years ago, I almost didn’t “see” it when it happened. You see, “it” came in a package that I wasn’t expecting. It actually took my dating someone else to realize the love that had been in front of me the whole time. It took a boatload of courage (and some heart ache) to then take the leap. So glad I did. Back then, my friends and family actually questioned my relationship (“Him? You’re dating him?!”) Defiantly I would respond, “Yeah!, I’m dating HIM! He’s fantastic!”

    I guess the whole point of my telling you this is, you NEVER know how love will come to you. The love of my life began as a simple friendship. One that grew through honest, candid conversations, getting to know each other and showing the good with the bad. I’ve often heard that it is better to wish for a friend then a lover. BE a friend and you just might gain a lover. I agree with HMB…hope is everything.

    • Thanks for sharing, Tracy. I remember back in the early ’90s falling madly in love with my best friend. I never in a million years thought she’d be interested in anything more, but we ended up together. It was fantastic while it lasted. That’s long over now and I went through a terrible heartbreak for it, but it was worth it.

      The thing is, at my age now things are much different. It’s not so much that I’ve lost hope. It’s just died in me. I’m sleepwalking through life now. Saturday when I was out, a friend was talking about something she read to do with depression, how it’s akin to a chronic pain that slowly eats you from the inside out. And the problem is, no one takes it that seriously because they can’t see it. They see you laughing and joking around and having “fun” so they just assume it can’t be that bad. I think for me it really settled in when I came to realize that there just isn’t hope anymore. Once I come to terms with that I think I’ll begin to feel better. Right now I’m still staggered by this realization, but I’ll get over it. I’ll come out the other end and that part of my life will be forgotten and I’ll move on.

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